We have all heard stories about couples who have spent a number of years and over $100,000 in an attempt to get pregnant, only to miscarry in the first trimester.
For many couples, the ordeal of several years of IVF treatment to get pregnant only to lose the baby causes enormous emotional strain. To put it mildly, it’s an emotional roller coaster.
There comes a point where it becomes apparent that the decision to accept someone else’s embryo is inevitable. After exhausting all other possibilities they begin the long journey of sourcing an donor egg.
The decision should not be taken lightly.
It’s an enormous gift from a donor, but that person needs to realize the child is not theirs; they have to look at it like it’s giving blood, and they can’t have emotional ties.
Unlike sperm donors, who have an extensive register, locating a suitable egg donor is more complicated, with some aspiring mothers resorting to newspaper ads and online forums to seek eggs.
The ideal donor needs to be below the age of 35 and finished having their own children; it is also paramount the donor understands her condition of emotional disengagement.
Many expectant parents exhaust a host of potential donors, some of who are not prepared to agree to complete disengagement. To become egg donor, a woman has to be willing to accept the reality that the child does not belong to her.
Once the hopeful couple has dealt with all their own emotions to accept they need a donor, it’s the emotional drama of having access and trying to find people to donate that proves further painstaking work.
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